You Go Momma!

The other day I was at a store checkout when a mom and her two sons came up to pay. It was obvious that they had been in an ongoing discussion by the time they got there. One son was pouting while the other was pleading. The mom was firmly but quietly putting her foot down. From what I overheard, the boys were being deprived of “treats” on account of disobeying her earlier in the day. Eventually, the second boy gave up his pleading and joined his brother in the pouting party. The mom proceeded to look back at me and say, “I’m being a mean mom today.”

I smiled and disagreed politely, but my thoughts continued to form. I wanted to assure her that she was in no way being a “mean mom,” In fact, in this very moment, she was being a really great mom. I wanted to tell her, “You’ve got this momma! You are doing the hard things right now so that later in their lives you won’t have to do the even harder things.” The opportunity didn’t present itself for me to give my encouragement, but the sentiment toward her lingered in my heart. I have been wondering: Do moms really feel like mean moms when they’re actually doing the best things they can for their kids?” In case this resonates with you, let’s evaluate the definition of ‘mean’ for a moment.

Mean: (adj)
Unwilling to give or share things; not generous.


Can we just agree on something here? If there is one thing required to be a mom it’s giving. Giving, giving, and MORE GIVING. Being a mom means that everything you own is now co-owned by your kids. You share your drinks, your plate, your lap, your bed, your SPACE. So to say you are a mean mom, unwilling to give or share, and without generosity, would be a pretty big stretch.


Unkind, spiteful, or unfair; vicious or aggressive in behavior.

If there is anything unfair about motherhood, it’s that you can’t even take a 5-minute shower-- or go to the bathroom for that matter--without a child knocking on the door needing your attention. If there is anything unkind about motherhood it’s the ungodly hour at which your children decide you need to wake up in the morning. Spiteful? That little voice that screams “NO!” to everything you say sounds pretty spiteful, wouldn’t you say?

I think you see where I am going here…
I don’t have to be a mom to know that being a mom is rough and it requires you to be tough! It requires you to do the hard things and do them consistently.

I can only imagine how tough a momma has to be! When you know what you need to do but it’s hard and not getting easier. It’s exhausting. And it’s constant. But the encouraging thing to know is that doing the hard things now, prevents you from having to do the harder things in the future. Saying “no” today may allow you to say “yes” in the future.

Stick to your guns, mom! Don’t give up! God gave you those babies because He has, and is continuing to equip you to give them what they need. He designed them for you and you for them. Do your thing and don’t worry about what someone else thinks is best for your kids. If they knew, God would have given your kids to them. But most times what you think other people are critiquing they’re really not. Don’t let your assumptions isolate you.

Be confident in your role as mom. No one can replace you. You were made for this. Even when the kids call you mean, even when you call yourself mean, you’re not. You are doing your best to help your kids be their best. All your hard work will pay off. Do the hard things; your kids will thank you one day.

Work that mom life. It looks good on you. You go momma!


Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Galatians 6:9

Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love Him.
James 1:2

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13


No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Hebrews 12:11

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